#WATWB: Raped and Stabbed on the Wedding Day

02 Jul

While crawling the blogosphere for daily tidbits, I came across a story about a group of writers who came up with the idea of shining some light to the darkness of negativity hogging social media. At the end of every month, members share uplifting stories on “We Are The World” Blogfest. Stories that show all is not lost and that there’s so much positivity in the world; people who go out of their way to make the world a better place or those who’ve been through heartrending ordeals but found the courage to rise up again. 

One such person is Terry Gobanga.

One beautiful day Terry was preparing for what she thought would be a memorable day ahead. Well, memorable it was but not in a way she anticipated. Terry was abducted on the morning of her wedding day, raped, stabbed and left for dead. All this happened while the groom, family and guests were already assembled in a church waiting for her anxiously.

During her hospitalisation, doctors told her she wouldn’t be able to have any children of her own because the stab wound she suffered on her stomach had penetrated her uterus. At this point it seemed the world was collapsing on her. 

Her groom, Harry, stood by her through the ordeal, insisting he still wanted to marry and take care of her. He kept his word and seven months later he walked her down the aisle in a wedding catered for by a rape survivor and her friends.

This is the point at which you’d probably think all is well that ends well. Not so, Terry lost her husband to carbon monoxide poisoning, almost dying along with him, after the jiko (charcoal stove) he had lit to keep them warm filled their bedroom with the toxic fumes.
Despite being a pastor, she felt God had forsaken her. People thought and said she was cursed. She swore she would never get married again. She was depressed.

Nevertheless, a friend of hers never gave up and kept visiting and comforting her. After a while he fell for her and told her he wanted them to be husband and wife. Terry tried to dissuade him in account of her dark past and inability to bear children but he had made up his mind. He married her and they miraculously had children.

Terry wrote a book about the ordeal, Crawling Out of Darkness, and started an organization, Kara Olmurani, that offers rape survivors support and counselling.
Read Terry’s full story here

This month’s We Are The World Blogfest cohosts Lynn HollbrooksSylvia SteinSylvia McGrath and Belinda witzenhausen welcome all to join and share uplifing stories via the #WATWB blogfest.

Click here to become part of the community


Posted by on July 2, 2017 in Lifestyle, News, True Stories


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14 responses to “#WATWB: Raped and Stabbed on the Wedding Day

  1. Damyanti Biswas

    July 4, 2017 at 3:44 am

    I’ve read this story and it is chilling yet moving: a testament to the strength of the human spirit. Thanks for your support of the WATWB, Edwin.

    Liked by 2 people

    • eduzmi

      July 4, 2017 at 6:02 am

      Indeed it is. The human spirit is virtually indestructible. It’s an encouragement to other victims that you can pick up the pieces and rebuild your life.


  2. Susan Scott

    July 4, 2017 at 3:42 pm

    I was tearful reading this story and the link … it truly is an amazing one. Her 2nd husband who stood by her is also an extraordinary individual. May many more blessings come their way. Thank you for sharing it!

    Liked by 1 person

    • eduzmi

      July 5, 2017 at 7:28 am

      It’s quite emotional and the 2nd husband is an angel. A ray of sunshine in such darkness.

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Deborah Drucker

    July 4, 2017 at 9:40 pm

    It is incomprehensible to me the the level of violence committed against women in this world. Such darkness, but even with all that darkness there are people who bring light.

    Liked by 1 person

    • eduzmi

      July 5, 2017 at 7:30 am

      It’s hard to get why some people can be so animalistic. Thankfully Terry was able to move on from the darkness

      Liked by 1 person

      • Deborah Drucker

        July 5, 2017 at 8:39 pm

        Great that she had the happy ending that she deserved. 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

      • eduzmi

        July 5, 2017 at 9:41 pm

        Sure Deborah. God bless the second husband.

        Liked by 1 person

  4. simonfalk28

    July 19, 2017 at 2:37 pm

    So much hurt and so much goodness in one life. Terry truly is a wonderful person, as are both the men who were married to her. Thanks for much for sharing and for joining us Simon’s Still Stanza #WATWB


    • eduzmi

      July 19, 2017 at 6:23 pm

      Terry is indeed an inspiration. Thanks for your kind words Simon

      Liked by 1 person

  5. Helen Sanger

    November 17, 2017 at 4:01 pm

    Where can I get a copy of Terry’s book from? I live in England.
    Helen Sanger


    • eduzmi

      November 30, 2017 at 9:16 am

      Hello Helen, unfortunately am unable to confirm if you can get a copy of her book in your location. Will update you once I get the info.


      • Helen Sanger

        November 30, 2017 at 11:36 am

        Thankyou Eudzmi for your email.
        I’ve messaged Terry and she told me that at the minute her book isn’t available to buy online, she said that she’s coming to the UK next year and she was hoping to bring a copy of her book to give to me which is very nice of her.
        Thanks again
        Helen Sanger


      • eduzmi

        November 30, 2017 at 12:02 pm

        That’s great Helen. Am glad you got in touch and will be receiving her book.



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